So I have something a bit different for you today, and it’s definitely something that is very near and dear to my heart and likely a bit wordy. Today I want to talk about Wear It Purple day and why it’s important not only to me, but to so many other people too!
Wear It Purple is a student-led, non for profit organisation. They want to teach people that every young person is unique and worthy of love. It doesn’t matter your sex, your sexuality or your gender identity. No one should be subject to bullying, belittlement and invalidation. In whatever environment you live in, you should feel safe. You should feel loved. And you should feel proud to be you. Each year, Wear It Purple, host a day of events and education to show the young rainbow people of the world that they matter. These kids need to know this so bad. Some of these kids have to endure so much and it’s just shit. I for one, say it shouldn’t be this way and I know I’m not alone.
I don’t go sharing a whole lot about my family on here, for good reason, they’re young. I’ve always been of the mind that when they are ready, and old enough, if they want to share bits about themselves, they can go right ahead. But this is different, I want you all to know how proud I am of my family. For those who don’t know me personally, you may not be aware that I am mum to three gorgeous, and incredibly trying at times, children. All three are unique in their own way, and incredibly different.
I was blessed to give birth to three healthy boys, and to this day, they are still pretty healthy children which I find amazing since they rarely eat all their veges. But one of my children was ‘different’ from early on. Very early on. As soon as O could express herself she preferred female clothing, female targeted toys, would wrap her head in anything she could get to depict long hair. Whatever right? Heaps of kids do this. It’s a phase, and it passes. Not all the time.
Early on, not knowing any better, we would have her wear ‘ gender appropriate’ clothing whilst out because of course, she could not wear a dress while shopping. It was an ‘ at home’ thing only. Over time, O became increasingly angry, withdrawn, and visibly ashamed of herself. The heartbreak of seeing a four yr old child being ashamed of herself and hiding and changing her clothes depending on her level of trust with different people is just one of the most soul crushing things for a parent to see. I’m sorry, but in what world should a child that age EVER be ashamed of themselves. Never. It should never happen!
At around 4 1/2-5 yrs of age, we had enough. Other things had happened, many other statements made that rip you to your very core, things I would never dream a person so young could even think of or comprehend, and we decided it was better to allow our child be herself, rather than fit in with our preconceived notions of what we thought she should present herself as. This wasn’t a phase, this wasn’t going away. This was not a kid playing dress-ups. The very minute we allowed O to be herself, this kid blossomed. She was happy, confident, and most importantly, proud of herself.
So fast track to today, we have a very well adjusted, almost six year old child who has gender dysphoria. She is a girl. She is the girl she always told me she was. Our life is a constant stream of learning, from her and from others. We take each day as it comes, and we are blessed that we live in an amazing community and are surrounded by amazingly supportive family and friends. We know that shit is going to get tough sometimes, but we know we can deal with it, and we’ll come out the other side stronger and better people.
As a parent of a transgender child, your whole world pivots, everything you thought you knew is flipped and turned inside out. You know what, you roll with it. You learn. You be accepting. You teach your children, no matter what their interests, to be proud of themselves. And that’s what wear it purple day is about.
Here is O early this year. She has since grown her hair out and is most excited that she can get a ponytail!
Last year I wore purple nails on August 26th and I think I shared them on my Facebook page, that’s all. This year, I want my voice to be heard. I’m certainly going to paint my nails purple, but this year I’m going to be proud, the proudest. And I’m going to share those purple nails far and wide, so everyone knows it. So many of these kids don’t have voices, heartbreakingly some of these kids don’t know acceptance or love, and I want anyone who reads this to know that I am proud of you. You are amazing. You are valued.
I am inviting anyone who wants to to join me on August 26th and paint your nails purple, hell you can go all out and become Barney if that’s your jam! I’m going to share graphics all over social media, and I really would love for you to join me in showing support for our younger rainbow people around the world if you would like to. You don’t have to do anything fancy. You can just do a simple purple swatch or you can go all out with something extravagant. Everyone matters!!
I’m using the hashtags #wearitpurple #wearitpurple2016 and #nailitpurple2016 on Instagram and Twitter. You’re welcome to grab any of the images below to share around if you’d like to. I would be honoured and moved to see even one other person joining me with this.
Thanks so much for reading and I’ll leave the links below to the Wear It Purple information if you’d like to find out more about this organisation. Also just know, if anyone ever wants to chat about anything at all, be it public or private, you can comment below or contact me via Facebook or my Contact page on here. I’ll also note that although the Wear It Purple organisation know I am doing this, I’m not sponsored or paid in any way to do this, I’m doing it because I am a flipping proud mum!